Tonight I arrived 71 minutes early to hear the author, Truth-teller, Hope-spreader Glennon Doyle Melton speak (thank you, Raegan, for the early arrival and great seats).
Here's the view for those 71:
My dear, wise friend Angela often tells me things and recommends authors before I am ready for them. She recommended Glennon to me several times (at least 8) before I read one of her blog posts which began something like this:
"You guys, I don't have much time to write, but I just saw my therapist and it was awesome I have to share with you because YOU KNOW how much therapy costs and if I share with you and it helps then paying that much was worth it."
Do you know how many hot spot buttons she hits with that one run-on sentence? I was in love.
I started following her blog and then got her book and then read it a few times then drove it over to some friend's houses to make sure they could touch it and see it then read it...
I was, indeed, encouraged and relieved and inspired.
Tonight was my first time to see her not on a screen and to hear her not through speakers.
She brought her sister, who manages her schedule or something, and I always think to myself, "I wish I had brought my sister." Good job, Glennon.
First thing when it was over, I got a picture with Glennon's younger sister and we are making the Sistering Face.
Glennon writes here about the process of Sistering in carpentry, and she talked about it tonight. And when she was done with the explanation of this amazing process she made this face:
So sister and I did the Sistering Face. I am on the right. Obviously.
I kept thinking about this one time when my real life family was taking a group picture and my real life sister and I were standing next to each other, supporting each other (as in Sistering Like Carpenters) and she said, "Okay, silly face one!"
To which I thought, "Oh we are all going to make a silly face in this one family picture since we just took a posed, smiley-faced one."
Stupid thought on my sister part. I was the only one to make a silly face in that protrait. I got Sister Punk'd...which is so worth it now that there is an official Sister Face.
Then I got to Sister Face with Glennon!
And Rachel photobombed us in the back! Because she's a sister too!
At the end of her talk, I think ALL of us felt like sisters. And I hope we keep using our faces to show it.
In the meantime, here are some of the notes I took, because sharing therapy is always the right thing to do:
1. Laughter is the proof of hope.
2. Be aware of when you reject an invitation from God.
3. Progress is not a line for anyone. It is a spiral staircase; we keep coming around and around.
4. You have to choose between being Real & Loved and being Perfect & Admired. Nothing hurts as much as not being known.
5. Be a witness to other people's "Easy Buttons" (places of denial) and a tight judge of your own.
6. See other women as masterpieces, not mirrors.
7. DON'T KNOCK THE VALLEYS.
8. Our entire economy is based on you feeling like crap...that you will never have enough of all that stuff you don't need.
9. (To her therapist) That sounds really hard...do you have any more pills?
10. Forgiveness is not always a once and done...it's a spiral staircase too.
Thank you Glennon Doyle Melton and Sister. We will carry your torch through Birmingham and keep encouraging Truth-tellers and Hope-spreaders.